There are times when everything seems so difficult to achieve. You will face many difficulties in your life. You will be met with criticism and people will do their best to break you and defeat you. Generally, in those moments of life you are more likely to degrade yourself to such a point that, in the end, you consider yourself just a loser, someone who does not deserve anything and is a complete failure.
You will believe what people tell you about you and they will also start criticizing yourself. However, what you should keep in mind is that everyone faces difficulties in their lives, but that does not mean that you keep beating yourself. Don't let people's words get to you because people will always talk no matter what you do.
Unfortunately for many of us, we listen to other people's judgments. This in turn leads us to focus only on our negatives. We ignore all the positive aspects that we have. No individual will be able to achieve anything in life if they believe they are a failure or continue to experience low mood.
Getting up again can be difficult, but it is not impossible.
Here are some of the best tips you can use to feel better about yourself. Follow them and don't let other people's opinion affect you in any way!
1. Call someone who loves you
The first thing to do when you feel bad about yourself is to call your mother. Everyone has a special relationship with their parents, but with their mother, there is a special bond. Talk about the conflicting feelings you've been feeling about yourself. She will help you realize your self-worth. Having a nice conversation with your mother is literally the best remedy for anyone who is feeling bad. If you can't call your mother, call someone who is really close to you. It will have the same effect. The people who love you are the ones who appreciate you for who you are.
2. Be grateful
Many of us take what other people think about how we look at our hearts. Stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself. Appreciate what you see Own all your flaws and be grateful for what nature has given you.
3. Find real friends
Are the people you consider friends constantly bringing you down? Maybe you should reconsider if you are friends with them. You don't need so much negativity around. True friends will never make you feel bad about yourself. Stay away from people who pretend to be your friends.
4. Enjoy your achievements
Another great tip that will help you when you feel bad is to write down every single thing or task that you have accomplished. Write down even the smallest whether it's winning a local race or passing a test. Even making dinner for the first time or doing your own laundry is an achievement you should be happy about. Nail the sheet of paper to your refrigerator or anywhere else you can easily see it. Read the list every day, make additions, and be happy with what you have accomplished in your life.
Go for a run, go to the gym, or start yoga. Staying active will help your mind and body stop feeling bad.
You need to relax your mind.Thinking too much can cause depression, anxiety, and panic attacks! Stay away from all evil, even if it consumes your brain. Just let it go, relax, and connect with your own self.
7. Treat yourself
Pamper yourself. When you feel bad about yourself, go to a nearby spa and get a massage. Even changing your hairstyle or a complete makeover can help you feel better about yourself. If you don't like the way your face looks, then there's no reason why you can't change it a bit if it's something you're doing yourself. Do you think you need a face lift or want to remove some wrinkles? See an esthetician who has been properly trained. There is a stigma associated with people who perform small procedures. However, research shows that taking care of your skin in this way can help people feel better about themselves.
8. Stand up for yourself
If you have done or said something wrong, then there is no shame in apologizing. But if the person you are apologizing to starts to make you feel worse about yourself and degrades you, then you really need to stand up for yourself. Apologizing to someone does not give them the right to treat you like trash.
9. Find a hobby
Find yourself a hobby! It could be anything that interests you or it could be something completely new. Even if people haven't complimented your singing, that doesn't mean you should never sing again. Stand in front of a mirror and sing your heart out. Don't let anyone tell you that you are not good at something that you are passionate about. Spending time doing something you enjoy will help you relax and bring positive change in your life.
10. Get professional support
You don't have to go through your fight alone. If you have depression, anxiety, or something similar, you can work with a therapist and your insurance will cover it. If you don't have a diagnosed mental illness but want to find ways to be happier, find an online counselor who can help you. Having the support of a professional to help you find what is keeping you depressed will help cheer you up.
Because you worth it!
Just because someone thinks they don't deserve happiness doesn't actually mean they don't really deserve to be happy in life. Gossip and critical comments are habits that many people have. They also understand the power their words can have over another person and that is what makes them so dangerous.
You must strengthen your guard in front of those people. You need to find your confidence and not allow the words of those people to affect you in any way. You must realize that they do not care about you. To stop feeling bad and regain your vitality, all you need to do is take care of yourself and feel absolutely comfortable in your skin.
By Tom Casano
Original article (in English)